Sunday, July 29, 2012

We've all been there in one way or another, visiting the infamous Friend Zone, but here's what I don't understand - "they" say the best relationships come after being friends, so how do you avoid the friend zone but still be friends?

I will admit that I've put guys in the friend zone, and I've been put there myself. Sometimes it's the zone of I-like-you-but-not-right-now and other times it's the I-don't-know-how-to-tell-you-I-don't-like-you zone. Part of me thinks the idea of it is simply an excuse, a cop out when you really don't want to have that talk because let's be honest, you're not going to reciprocate feelings for everyone. Sometimes they really are just a friend.

But, let's say you are one of the unlucky few who are in the friend zone because of outside circumstances. Half of the party is kind of seeing someone that isn't you, maybe someone just got out of a relationship and isn't ready to dive back into the dating game. Regardless, it's not the right time and boom, there's the friend zone. Is it possible to hover between a relationship and friends without entering the dreaded friend zone? And if you do get zoned, is it possible to get out of it?

I feel like it's pretty hard to be a Champion of the Friend Zone like Jim Halpert. It's one of those, once you're in Dodge, you're not getting out. But if you do make it out alive, you deserve the person on your arm and a gold medal. And if you don't make it out, you got a great friend out of it, right?

Saturday, July 14, 2012

Who doesn't love unsolicited advice? This girl, but I sure love giving it. So, I thought I'd share my list of top things not to do in college. We've all heard that you have to do this and try that, but it's only after the fact when we hear "Oh, you definitely shouldn't have done that."

one: Don't visit your family every weekend, every other weekend or even once a month. You're at college to experience new things, meet new people and become your own person. Going home to mom and dad multiple times will not make that happen, but it will make you that 18 going on 12 year old.

two: Don't go to that frat party alone. Ever. Regardless of who invited you or who you're meeting there. Would you get in a creepy van just because the guy asked you to and offered you candy as a prize?

three: If you plan to go out in a dress and heels, don't do more than one tequila shot. Frankly, a dress + heels = asking for trouble, but when you multiply all that by the devil that is alcohol, you know you're going to be stumbling and most likely falling down on the sidewalk while your dress betrays you and gives everyone something to see.

four: Don't think going to class is the same as studying, and don't think sitting in class playing Words with Friends is the same as learning. Find a favorite spot in the library or the local coffee shop and prepare to feel at home there over the next four+ years.

five: Don't eat dessert at every meal. College meal plans were made to fatten you up and going to the gym once a week is not going to override all those slices of oreo cake. The freshman 15 is not a rumor, people.

six: Don't assume that relationship you just entered is going to end with a ring and a wedding after graduation. Sure, it's your first relationship outside the confines of high school, but that doesn't automatically mean it's "the one". And even if it's not your first college relash (that's relationship abbreviated, cause I roll like that), just because you're together senior year does not mean you'll get married.

seven: Don't put all those pictures on Facebook. Yes, trying to get 1,000 pictures a year seems like a great idea at the time, but one day (as in, when you're trying to get a job) you'll look back and realize no one needs to see those pictures of you shotgunning a beer with a pair of boxers on your head.

eight: Don't be afraid to change your major. It's going to happen, possibly more than once, but believe me, it's better to do something you love then stick with something solely because you have 60 hours towards that degree.

nine: Don't wear Uggs with shorts. Don't wear Nike Tempos with leggings. If it's cold enough for Uggs, you shouldn't be in shorts. If it's cold enough for leggings, put on some pants and leave the Nikes for the gym.

ten: Don't spend all of college studying or obsessing about grades. Sure, a 4.0 sounds great when you tell your friends and family that you got it, but post college? It means nothing. So find a happy medium that allows you to truly experience all that college has to offer while still learning.

Any additions to the list?

Note: this list is for fun, don't be offended by any of the above statements.